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I don't have time


Does this sound familiar? I hear this from friends, work colleagues, clients and relatives all the time! The other day, a child in year 4 said the same words to me! This triggered a thought- this embedded mindset is a collective endemic and we need to sort this out. LOL!

Seems like people are struggling with time, all the time! Ironic?

Well, I don't think this is tautology (intentional repetition of words), but rather a highlight of the cause of the problem. If we get into a mind state where we sincerely believe we have no time, and we keep thinking this all the time, we are not just locked in a mindset, but we are expending our energy into a self -fulfilling prophecy. Bare with me... We know and have heard the connection between time and money. Time is money. Money can buy time. We need time to make money. Etc... The connections and links are well established, could be challenged, but let's leave that for now. But what about energy? How can we relate it? I propose we look at the correlation between the three- time, energy and money. You see, if we think we don't have time, we fuel a state of constant 'busyness', stress and fatigue which then leaves us feeling exhausted, impeding us from having creative solutions on how we manage our time, and unable to take ownership and control of our choices in how we use time. Now, don't get me wrong, I totally get the feeling of not having time. I don't have that thought anymore, but I had to change my life to change my narrative and alter my internal dialogue. Again, in order to do so the trilogy- energy, time, money was affected, but the effects of the change were worthwhile.

So a few steps for you to look at:

1. Make choices

In reality, you own your time and you own your life. This is freedom of choice. You're lucky - the one thing 'they' can't take from you is your mind. So make choices on how you think about time. When you decide to do housework instead of reading a book, appreciate the choice you made and be intentional. If you do the housework, be grateful for a clean house, take a minute to think how much you enjoy the outcome of the time you spent cleaning. If you chose the book reading instead of the house work, take a minute and reflect on the pleasure you had reading it or the learning done. Don't focus on the option you didn't take. Accept the house is a mess and be ok with it, accept the book hasn't been read and be ok with it. This one often gets a moan from people who say they need to prioritise others and certain tasks are not a choice. "I have kids and need to do their laundry, it's not a choice, not doing it impacts on others, it's not just me!"

2. Don't be a victim of your own choices

Yes, there are things you MUST do, rather than could or should. But effectively they all stem down from a choice. You have kids, you have a job, you have a house and bills to pay- fair enough. You have chosen the life you're living and I am sure you love lots of things about it, so remind yourself of what you love about it and again be grateful when sometimes your time is of service to others rather than yourself. BUT, if ultimately, you want to change your life- then take responsibility, don't a be a victim of your own life, OWN it.

3. Wear your own oxygen mask first

Having said that, maybe it's time to prioritise yourself. In order to have more time, you need to put yourself first and learn how to say no. Most of the times, you will find yourself saying no to your old self on what needs to be done next. Ask yourself, why? Why do you need to do it? And then ask why do you want to do it? If you do it with motivation, you probably will more than enjoy it, and when we enjoy what we do, time ceases to exist, it flows, and multiplies. Your creative energy is positively used and the results start happening. You are no good to anyone if you haven't got yourself sorted first. So again be kind to yourself and you will be kinder to others (your children, partner, friends and work colleagues).